“Is it acceptable to have sex on the first date?

The short answer is “no.”

A guy takes you on a first date, wines and dines you, and pays $100 by the end of the night. Does that mean you owe him some action? No, and don’t forget it.

If you give it up at the end of the night, even if there is intent on progressing the relationship, it doesn’t change that you’re a $100 whore.

Many gays claim to be classy and have vast amounts of self respect, but then they jump in bed with a guy on the first encounter. Maybe they should look up what self respect means.

Sex is an easy way to mess up your chances in a relationship. Knowing the other guy’s motives is hard. You have no way of knowing whether or not you’re on the same page, or if he’s just in it for the sex.

If the other guy is looking for sex, and you’re looking for sex, then I suppose that’s OK and it’s your business. But if we’re talking dates and relationships, the emotions and motives must be evaluated.

Is it a legitimate date, or a booty call? A date is not someone you meet while drunk at a bar, nor someone you met on Grindr who decided to come over.

It may seem harsh, but if the relationship is going somewhere, then what’s the rush to jump in the sack? “Whatever happens, happens” wasn’t always a euphemism for sex. Guys think they’re being clever when they say it, but if everyone knows that it means you want to have sex, then you’re not so clever after all.

Being slutty was never intended to be a fashion trend. Be respectful, not just to your date, but to yourself.

If you are just looking for sex, don’t lead the poor guy on, you would be the reason he doesn’t believe that love truly exists.

It is important to be honest with yourself about what you want.

Say what you mean, listen to what is being said to you. If there is a connection, pursue it.

If you sleep with a guy on the first date, you’re no better than the guys you talk trash about for only wanting one thing.

Be the example.

See Matthew’s straight opinion of this question here.