“Are toys appropriate in a relationship?”

THE GAY PERSPECTIVE

Are sex toys required to have an enjoyable sex life? No. Do they really enhance your sex life? Maybe. Are they acceptable or appropriate in the bedroom with your partner? Sure.

Sex has evolved since your grandma and grandpa were knockin’ boots; not simply in the bedroom, but in our minds as well. The culture surrounding sex exploded in popularity and availability with the birth of the Internet.

The availability of pornographic material became so abundant that the mindset of society was numbed by the imagery. With this desensitization came acceptance and curiosity.

Sexual dignity and privacy somewhat became a thing of the past, and sex’s acceptability and placement within “polite company” began edging forward.

Sex left the bedroom and became industry.

Factories now produce plastic objects designed to stimulate your body. There are objects to put your penis into and objects shaped like penises.

The modern day play-toy was designed to help you simulate sex and possibly even enhance the real sex in your life.

There is nothing wrong with spicing up your sex life with some accessories, but you should never depend on them as a necessity.

Your man is with you for you. He could be single at home alone with his sex toys, so just remember that sex is between you and him, not you and your toys.

Don’t let your sex toy become a third partner in the bedroom, otherwise you risk diminishing the intimacy you’ve built with your man.

Relationship building is difficult, so explore each others’ interests. Trying new things is healthy, and you don’t know what you might be missing until you’ve given it a shot.

Plus there is an added bonus; if you try out what he is into, he is more likely to try out something you’re into since you were so open with him.

If your man is into sex toys but you aren’t, give it a try. Go out and buy that dildo he keeps making jokes about. You might find it beneficial to your relationship, and hey, it could be fun.