Some of us feel tied down by what society demands of us, and we can’t muster the energy to not always do what it demands of us.
Everyday, I am tempted to utter the word “NO” but it can never comfortably roll off of the tip of my tongue. This is a constant battle internally and externally and it interferes with my relationships and employment situation
Being the “yes man” in your group of friends or just society in general may not get you into the best of situations at times. All you succeed in doing is letting everyone believe they can do anything they want with you as no one will tell them otherwise.
Saying “yes” allows me to be the person that everyone “likes”. It doesn’t disappoint anyone and allows me to keep busy throughout my life; this has begun to interfere with my studies and lifestyle, however. While I want to make people happy, I feel very very upset because I don’t stand up for myself.
It is a constant battle with my family, friends and society as I deal with the pressures of pleasing people. Pleasing people can lead you to do various tasks that you might not ultimately be prepared for. For me, being the “yes man” is very time consuming. I constantly have to fit everyone into my daily life and make sure that I am not leaving anyone out.
People in my life like to take advantage of my kindness and generosity. It often gets taken to the point where people think it’s okay to do whatever they please around me or in my own home.
People do not always consider how I feel in my surroundings whatsoever. They often do this because I never open my mouth or use my words to stand up and defend myself. It can be very pressing in these situations with what to do and how to handle things.
It is a definite character flaw that I possess in my life. It continues to beat me down everyday and will, until I can learn how to smoothly utter the word, “NO”. I truly believe that I have the ability to say it, but I don’t have the confidence to put it out there without worrying if I am going to upset anyone or not.
It is important for me of us to realize that it is not my job or career to please everyone. Unfortunately, I’m also aware that my first instinct to say yes, just so no one gets upset with me. Guess what?
Real friends will still be there at the end of the day, and if they aren’t, that really does show their true colors.
You have to be stronger than the word that is rolling off of the tip of your tongue.
