More than just my heart was broken, my whole body felt like it was shattered. I was at the lowest point in my life. I was never supposed to be the girl who was hurt by a guy, let alone crying over one.

I’m a warrior. I’ve always been strong, but I let him break me. I lost my sanity.  I lost myself. I cried for three weeks straight and didn’t want to live anymore. The pain I felt was so unbearable, and I did not want to feel any kind of pain anymore.

Every situation is different, but for myself, I really could not deal with a break up. I had completely lost who I was. I started contemplating killing myself and it wasn’t until I was held under a 51/50 watch that I realized how small my issue was compared to the other people who were in there.

According to Elite Daily published in Women’s Health Magazine, when you’re in love, your brain is inundated with the neurochemicals dopamine and oxytocin, making you experience feelings of happiness and pleasure.  According to science,  love is more addicting than drugs.

One thing you may already know is that “Time heals all wounds.’ . Now this is very true, but at the time, I thought there wasn’t  enough time to heal what I was feeling. But everyday got a little easier, and I no longer let the pain consume my day. I hung out with friends to occupy most of my time. I didn’t stop crying, but I did cry less.

Do not hold in the anger or sadness that you’re feeling. If you have to cry, do not be afraid to do so. Let all the tears flow out, play some sad music and let what you are feeling out. It’s okay to be angry; you have the right to be; you’ve given a piece of yourself to another person. But please do not let this anger/sadness turn into wanting to harm them or yourself.

Delete your ex from all social networks. Trust me! You don’t need to be friends with them; you do not need to spy on their page anymore. I know it’s very tempting, but in order for this healing process to be easier–cut all contact.

Get rid of things he or she gave you; if you have any of their possessions, cut them up or burn those items. If doing these sorts of actions helps you heal, then I highly recommend it.

Laugh about it; it takes the sting out the situation.

A heartbreak changes you. I would love to go back to the person who was carefree and was so full of life. Even though the pain fades, you will never forget it.

My heartbreak is forever a shadow in my life that I carry with me and reflect on.
Nicole Sobon ,author of “Program 13”, said, “Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go, but rather, learning to start over.”