Yes, Exes Can Still Be Friends

Now I know what you’re thinking: “How could I ever be friends with anyone who hurt me?”

The last person you probably ever want to be friends with is someone you shared emotions, interests, and pizza with. The last person you probably want to be friends with is someone who you shared so much with and then ended up hurting you. I’m fully aware of the fact that you probably want this person to jump into a pool of hungry alligators.

Regardless of what your ex did, time cures any single kind of heartbreak; how long it takes to heal is a different story. Given the correct time that each person needs to get over their ex, exes could go back to being friends.

Now, I’m not necessarily saying you could go back to being best friends who hang out all the time, go to brunch, and talk about each other’s days. I’m talking about genuinely feeling comfortable speaking to them from time to time, an acquaintance perhaps.

What if couples had the same group of friends and after splitting up (and waiting the appropriate amount of time) go back to being friends, and they only see each other when they’re meeting up with their group of friends. That’s perfectly acceptable.

Many people believe that you have to automatically hate your ex even after time has gone by. Imagine having ten years go by and still feeling hatred towards an ex. That seems a bit insane.

Let’s say the breakup was mutual and both partners got what they wanted. It’d obviously be easier for them to go back to being friends after time because they’d have nothing to be “salty” about. Unlike couples who break up for other numerous reasons, such as cheating who obviously need more time to heal.

If given the certain time to fully heal, exes could still be friends/acquaintances.

There has to be a certain point where you no longer feel bitter or hatred towards your ex. Picture this scenario: You’re walking down a crowded street and you see your ex eating outside a bagel shop whom you haven’t seen in four years– do you say hi? Or do you keep walking?

An ex was once a part of your life, they made you go through a good or bad experience that helped you grow as a person. Regardless of what you and your ex went through, they were an impact in what made you become who you are. Feeling bitterness and hatred towards an ex shouldn’t last forever.

However, it’s up to you to determine exactly how long you want to wait before you consider ever talking to an ex again. (That’s if you’re even considering it.)

Becoming friends with an ex is totally up to the type of person that you are. I just don’t see why people look down upon it. If two people who were once in a relationship break up and were given enough time to get over each other, there shouldn’t be harm in them being friends.